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Rubiks Cube

 

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There are times going through life that something occurs and you know that you will not be able to return to what was ever again; you move cross country or leave an important relationship and can feel the glacial shift deep within your self. It’s like a Rubik’s cube and a new row of matching colors has just been lined up; a feeling of satisfaction comes over you because you are a big step closer to the goal.

In our family, a whole side of the cube turned over and got matched this past weekend: our youngest child graduated from high school. I distinctly remember the morning of the first day of kindergarten for our oldest, I wrote a letter to the three little people in our house, explaining the fact that life would be changing from here on out, we would be on the schedule of the school system, with an influx of papers and projects and tests. Our focus moved to the daily muddling through with a very distant goal.

Somehow those three little kids stretched out and became taller and smarter, they started to think for themselves and visualizing their own goals and our house is becoming bigger and quieter by the day. The chaos has changed to small bursts and been replaced with long stints of near silence. In the most practical sense, I have worked myself right out of a job.

When our first two children graduated and started moving towards their next steps I had a deep sadness and already started to dread how it would feel to have the last one move on, but so far I feel nothing but excitement for the future. Their future. Because this isn’t about me. For years they were an extension of me, hanging off of me and looking to me to see how to react to life, but now they have stronger legs than mine and they know how to respond, even if an occasional call to Mom or Dad needs to be made.

 The part that is about me? The Rubiks Cube that keeps getting closer to being completed?  It is a life filled with memories and experiences that have helped to make me who I am, and I can’t wait to see what color of the cube we work on next.

 

Change the World

superwomanWhen I was in college I was going to be a world changer. I could feel it deep in my bones, I was called to do something great. I had some ideas of what this accomplishment would be, but no clear direction. My guy and I married and started our careers, both of us very busy and fulfilled with the work we were doing.

Then life changed and I got pregnant. Three times in three and a half years.

I went home full-time and filled my days with silly songs and incredible chaos. I loved being a mom and everything that went along with it. But the feeling remained; I wasn’t a world changer, I was a diaper changer, how was I going to fulfill my calling?

Years later, I can see that I was right about that feeling I had long ago, but today it looks so different than anything I would have ever imagined. I have invested my adult life into my husband and my three children, giving them my very best. I think my efforts will make the world-changing exponential through my children or their future generations. Maybe they won’t cure cancer, maybe they will. But the world will be a better place because they were in it, and I had a little something to do with that.

For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10

Surprise!

SurpriseWhat motivates us to be who we are? Often it is our parents; we may choose to be very organized and on time when our parents were always running late and out of sorts, or maybe we choose good health as a priority when our parents are not healthy at all. But sometimes instead of being motivated in the opposite direction, we choose a similar path as our parents, but usually in a bigger way.

Our kids have grown up living in several different states, and have visited about 45 of our 50 states so far. We have friends from all over because of our moves, so when we start talking about college and future plans, our kids see the whole country, and the world, as a possibility. I fully expect our nuclear family to live on separate continents someday. We have created this so we shouldn’t be surprised.

My guy and I have been on a journey of eating healthier for a while now, making nutrition an important part of our life. One of our children became a vegetarian last year and another is exploring veganism now, both in pursuit of better health. Although we aren’t going to this extreme, we are supporting it with our kids and trying to help them make good choices. We have created this so we shouldn’t be surprised.

We certainly can’t get upset that our children are exploring some different ways of eating, or resent the fact that they will probably live far from us in the future, because we have taught them to expect many options. In our parenting we shape who they are and how they value most things, we set the precedent so we shouldn’t be surprised when we see it amplified through our children. Conversely, we need to expect that some of the decisions they make will oppose our own course of action, because we have taught them to consider the possibilities and to think for themselves.

As a parent the best that I can do at this point is to get out of the way, encourage them to explore the possibilities and celebrate who they are becoming.

 

Change the World

superwomanWhen I was in college I was going to be a world changer. I could feel it deep in my bones, I was called to do something great. I had some ideas of what this accomplishment would be, but no clear direction. My guy and I married and started our careers, both of us very busy and fulfilled with the work we were doing.

Then life changed and I got pregnant. Three times in three and a half years.

I went home full-time and filled my days with silly songs and incredible chaos. I loved being a mom and everything that went along with it. But the feeling remained; I wasn’t a world changer, I was a diaper changer, how was I going to fulfill my calling?

Years later, I can see that I was right about that feeling I had long ago, but today it looks so different than anything I would have ever imagined. I have invested my adult life into my husband and my three children, giving them my very best. I think my efforts will make the world-changing exponential through my children or their future generations. Maybe they won’t cure cancer, maybe they will. But the world will be a better place because they were in it, and I had a little something to do with that.

For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10

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